All hail the Teenage Virgin!

Hving sex at an early age(in your teens) has now been classified by a UKM study as a " deterioration of moral values" and trying to lose your virginity while in your teens, is a "disciplinary problem". Apparently this study caused such a shock to those who conducted it because out of the 887 female students (aged between 13 to 17) with disciplinary problems, all but one admitted to having indulged in the "pleasures of the flesh".
As a result of this study, the State Government aims to formulate a "special training module" to promote high moral values among the young female generation.

I applaud the State Government's initiative in recognising the fact that many children from broken homes may suffer from low self esteem, self control and problem solving capabilities and therefore there is a need for intervention in making their lives better. However, I do not agree that they label the "phenomena" of children who had decided to lose their virginity early in their lives as a "deterioration of moral values".

When did losing your virginity early in your life become a barometer of your moral values? When I was in school, the 66 (or 77 or 88 whichever it was) nilais did not include "preserving your virginity until marriage (or to infinity and beyond)" as part of the Moral syllabus. I remember there was hormat menghormati, tolong menolong, bersopan santun (etc etc) and of course the infamous scenario of having to choose between representing your country in a badminton tourney and staying home to attend a relative's funeral (always, ALWAYS opt to stay home to attend the funeral if you want to pass your Moral paper). Where is the virginity part? Many of these so called lost virginity students may have had someone pop their cherry, but does that make them any less morally inclined than those who have not? Is it not more important that they have respect for their parents, love their siblings unconditionally, help their peers and honour their country? Or perhaps give up their seats in the LRT when they spot an elderly gentleman, or help a blind man cross the street? When did it become morally wrong to choose something which you do in private between two consenting individuals reflect on you as a person fuctioning in a society?

It is pertinent to note that only females have been part of this study. No male students were involved in it. Apparently it only takes females to indulge in sexual activities. It takes two to tango. And it sure as hell takes a woman AND a man to indulge in "pleasures of the flesh" (conventional methods anyways). Why is it that only female students are part of the so called moral decline in the country? Is it A-ok for males to lose their virginities but a No-No for females?

Sure, many of you might think I am merely being a narrow minded bitch and that the Government is trying to help these children. I do not resist the idea of helping children from broken homes, but I detest the idea of labeling them as perpetuating moral decandence merely because of they lost their virginities early in life.

Yes, I agree that is a deterioration of moral values if they indulge in truancy, vandalism and drugs but let us not be sidetracked and blinded by the virginity issues and concentrate on helping these children whatever their sexual choices. If their parents have failed them, their teachers are supposed to step into the shoes of a guardian. Teachers should be trained to not only spew out text books contents but to be a mentor to these children.
FYI, a group of teachers in Ipoh boycotted a retirement celebration for the school headmistress because they didnt like her for being too modern and that the previous conservative headmistress (which they oh so sayang)was booted out for being ineffective in running the school. The same group of teachers whom, and I quote "benci, benci BENCI!" unquote entering the school grounds because the side gate to the main door had two metal bars which looked similar to a cross. The training module to promote high values among children should instead be formulated to promote values among teachers. If teachers who are suppose to lead us are themselves a sorry excuse for a human being, how do we learn anything?

It is heartbreaking to know that our society places such a heavy burden on the shoulders of women to uphold the societal moral values and that our personal choices in life which do not affect others or dishonour anybody in anyway is the main reason we are labeled immoral.

I guess its thumbs up for a young unmarried girl who abstains from sex but never mind that she may kick a cat into the drain or spit at a handicapped man whom she spots on the streets.

Hey, if she s a virgin, she is already on a path to moral superiority!

All hail the teenage virgin!